Tuesday, February 07, 2006

The Red Thread

So awhile back I posted that I'm not real into the whole ladybug craze. Yes I like an item or two of clothing with ladybugs on it (and Lindsey does own a few things) and I think they're cute and I have a ladybug on my ticker. But I'm not into the "I saw 10 ladybugs today! Referrals must be on their way!" thing. Um, I have read these posts just about every single day and we all know referrals don't come every single day. :-)

So now I'm here to confess I don't care for the whole "red thread" craze. I don't think it's bad, it's kind of cool, etc. - but I don't go all ga ga over the saying and don't plan to put it on my blog, referral announcement, or anywhere else. I guess I've seen it a million times everywhere I turn and I'm not that into it. I know many people are and I'm not knocking it, it's just not my thing.

There, I said it....again.


Here's the saying for those of you who don't know: "An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but may never break." It's been said this is a Chinese saying but it was actually made up by an adoptive parent, albeit modified from an actual Chinese saying regarding marriage, not adoption.


Stephanie said...

I understand where you are coming from. My husband is Chinese and has never even heard of it! Having said that, I think maybe it can be reasuring to read it if you are in the process of adopting - it makes you feel some kind of connection to your child. Best of luck. By the way, your daughter is just beautiful.

Eileen said...

Thanks Stephanie! I think Lindsey is quite beautiful myself. :-)

I agree with you about the red thread saying, it's just not something I personally go "ga ga" over for myself. Maybe I've just heard it so many times in the past 3 years that it just doesn't mean much anymore? I don't know. Thanks for commenting!

Stephanie said...

Thanks for adding me to your links. It is really fun to watch as each family goes through the ups and downs of the whole process and to know that you are not alone. I will be keeping track of your progress!

Donna said...

I have to agree with you about the "red thread" thing.

As much as I love my daughter, I fully understand that there'd be a totally different kid in our house (with the same name) if our dossier landed in China a month sooner or later. And I know I'd love that kid with all my heart too. This is not to say that I'm not grateful that my Gwen ended up being the little cutie she is!!

But that's the beauty of kids.... they're always a perfect match!

Mom to Gwen of Shenzhen!